The weeks before a new school year can bring many emotions for teenagers. Some teens feel excited to see friends, join activities, meet new teachers, or move closer to graduation. Others feel nervous, uncertain, or overwhelmed. They may worry about grades, appearance, friendships, bullying, sports, college plans, social media pressure, or whether they will fit in. For Black teens, confidence is especially important. Young people are not only navigating schoolwork and social life. They may also be navigating identity, expectations, stereotypes, cultural pressure, and the desire to be understood. Confidence does not mean a teen never feels afraid. Confidence means they believe they can face challenges, ask for help, make progress, and belong in the spaces they enter. Parents, caregivers, mentors, and community leaders can help teens build that confidence before the school year begins. 1. Start With Honest Conversations. Teens do not always openly say what they are worried about. Sometimes stress shows up as silence, irritation, too much sleep, too much screen time, or not wanting to talk about school at all. Parents can create space by asking calm, open-ended questions: What are you looking forward to this school year? What are you nervous about? Is there anything you wish would be different this year? What kind of support do you need from me? What goal do you want to set for yourself? The goal is not to force a perfect answer. The goal is to let teens know they are not alone. Listening without immediately judging or lecturing helps build trust. When teens feel heard, they are more likely to open up again later. 2. Help Teens Name Their Strengths. Many teenagers are quick to notice what they do wrong but slow to recognize what they do well. A teen may say, “I’m bad at math,” “I’m awkward,” “I’m not popular,” or “I’m not good enough.” Over time, those thoughts can become part of how they see themselves. Families can help teens identify strengths beyond grades or popularity. A teen may be: Creative. Loyal. Funny. Thoughtful. Hardworking. Protective. Curious. Good with children. Good with music. Good at problem-solving. A natural leader. A quiet observer. A strong helper. Confidence grows when young people understand they have value in more than one area. Parents can say, “I notice how patient you are with your younger sibling,” or “I see how creative you are when you solve problems.” Specific praise feels more meaningful than general compliments. 3. Create A Simple Routine Before School Starts. A new school year feels less overwhelming when teens have a routine. During summer, sleep schedules may shift. Meals may become less consistent. Screen time may increase. The first week of school can feel harder if everything changes at once. Families can help teens slowly return to a healthier rhythm. This may include: Going to bed a little earlier. Waking up closer to school time. Organizing clothes and supplies. Planning breakfast options. Reviewing transportation plans. Setting screen-time boundaries at night. Creating a quiet homework space. The goal is not to control every moment. The goal is to help the teen feel prepared. Preparedness can reduce anxiety. 4. Encourage Healthy Friendships. Friendships can deeply affect a teen’s confidence. Supportive friends can make school feel safer and more enjoyable. Unhealthy friendships can create stress, drama, pressure, and insecurity. Parents can talk with teens about what healthy friendship looks like. Healthy friends: Respect boundaries. Encourage good choices. Celebrate success. Do not pressure someone to act out of character. Apologize when they are wrong. Make space for honesty. Do not constantly create drama. These conversations should not sound like interrogation. Instead of saying, “I don’t like your friends,” parents can ask, “How do you feel after spending time with them?” or “Do you feel like you can be yourself around them?” Teens need guidance, but they also need space to reflect. 5. Talk About Social Media Pressure. Social media can affect how teens see themselves. They may compare their clothes, hair, body, lifestyle, friendships, or popularity to what they see online. Even when they know posts are filtered or staged, the comparison can still hurt. Parents can help teens think critically about what they consume. Ask: Does this account make you feel encouraged or insecure? Do you feel pressure to post a certain way? Are you comparing your real life to someone else’s highlight reel? Do you need a break from certain apps? Teens should know that their worth is not measured by likes, followers, comments, or online attention. They are valuable even when they are offline. 6. Teach Teens To Ask For Help Early. Some teens wait too long to ask for help because they do not want to seem weak or incapable. But asking for help is a life skill. Teens should know how to speak with teachers, counselors, coaches, tutors, mentors, and trusted adults before a problem becomes too heavy. Families can help teens practice simple phrases: “I need help understanding this assignment.” “I’m feeling overwhelmed and need to talk.” “Can we make a plan for how I can improve?” “I do not feel comfortable in this situation.” “I need support with this class.” When teens learn to ask for help early, they are better prepared to handle challenges with maturity. 7. Support Their Identity And Self-Expression. Teenagers are learning who they are. They may explore style, music, interests, opinions, goals, friendships, and cultural identity. For Black teens, this can include questions about hair, skin tone, language, community, history, and how they are seen by others. Families can support confidence by allowing healthy self-expression. This does not mean there are no rules or boundaries. It means teens should feel respected as they grow into themselves. Parents can encourage cultural pride by sharing family stories, celebrating Black history year-round, supporting positive representation, and reminding teens that they do not need to shrink themselves to be accepted. A teen who feels rooted is more likely to stand tall. 8. Help Teens Set Realistic Goals. Goals can give teens